One of the things that makes the human experience so rich, as well as so challenging, are our emotions. For many people, learning how to control one’s emotions, particularly negative emotions, is a lifelong undertaking.
Humans are a traumatized species — this is overwhelmingly evident in the pages of history. And as it stands today, 99% of us remain subjugated in a life of relative servitude, working hard each day just to survive while dealing with enormous pressures physically, financially, mentally — and of course, emotionally.
This doesn’t make for a very happy state of being for most folks. In fact, many people are overwhelmed with sadness, seething with anger, or numb with despair. Next time you’re out in public, pay attention to the demeanor of those you encounter. How many of them are beaming a huge smile at you or giggling with joy?
Of course, there are a few who have become enlightened to our transcendent, true nature as infinite, eternal, spiritual beings, and have deeply accepted that this temporary human experience — illness, death, taxes and all — too shall pass. These people have learned to master their emotions and overcome injustice and trauma to make the most of being alive, and are able to shine their amazing, indomitable human spirit as a result.
However, this transcendent state of being isn’t common among most people — yet. One needs only to turn on any given reality TV program, attend a public event, or — depending on one’s family — go home for the holidays to see that lack of mastery over emotions by wounded people is a widely prevalent issue.
For most people, learning to control emotions — especially if they’ve experienced tremendous hardship or trauma — requires a lot of practice, self-love, and discipline. It may also require some form of therapy or healing work, either professionally administered or, preferably, self-studied and administered. After all, therapists are often wounded people, too, and their ability to earn a degree does not mean they’ve yet mastered their traumatized emotions.
Read on for three key signs that you’ve mastered your emotional domain.
Have you mastered your emotions yet? According to the deeply insightful self-development author Phillip J Watt, here are some key signs that you have:
“1. We understand the difference between our emotions and our feelings
Everybody has the same emotions, yet we all have different feelings. These two human states are distinct not only because they are processed in different areas of the brain, but because emotions are primarily physical, whilst feelings are mostly mental constructs.
“Our feelings are a mixture of our emotions, beliefs, philosophies, thoughts and memories. All these aspects come together to not just influence the initial emotions that we have, but also determine how we ‘feel’ about what is going on in our world. Therefore, understanding the difference between our emotions and feelings is critical to contextualising our emotions into the bigger pictures of our lives.
“2. Instead of holding onto challenging emotions, we let them go
Emotions like fear and anger can be harmful if we carry them around with us. They are certainly helpful in specific situations to ensure our survival, however those circumstances are few and far between. Why is it then that our normal waking experience is usually one that can be chosen to be enjoyed, but ongoing ‘feelings’ of stress, rage and other suffering continues to plague the daily lives of so many? One reason is that they haven’t learned to let shit go.
“We need to manage emotions like fear and anger so they no longer control our feelings and behaviours. It is a process though. First, embrace them as a part of our human experience. Then, understand them, as well as contextualise them into our beliefs and philosophies to utilise for our learning and growth. After we have taken the positive out of challenging emotional experiences, that’s when we can let them go, especially so we don’t encourage the negative aspects to manifest.
“3. Instead of reacting to our experience, we respond to it
Giving ourselves that little space to process what we’re going through allows us the time to ‘consciously’ incorporate our emotions into our philosophies on life. We have challenging experiences that bring up potent emotions all the time, yet responding instead of reacting to those experiences is self-empowering because then we’re more likely to treat ourselves with healthy and positive energy instead of getting sucked into unhealthy states of stress and pain.
“For example, when somebody does something to us that is rude, do we instantly react with anger or do we allow that emotion to drift into our belief system so that we respond in a compassionate and developed way? After all, if they’re behaving rudely, we know they’re already suffering, so do we really want to react in a way that will also cause us to suffer too? Not if we don’t want our emotions to control us we won’t.”
Read the full article by Watt at awesome higher consciousness website The Mind Unleashed (source link below), and share your thoughts on emotional mastery in the comments section.
Source: The Mind Unleashed
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